Everyone has their choices, opinions, hopes, and dreams, and it is okay to focus on them, without being available to others all the time.
Is saying sorry second nature to you, as is constantly feeling guilty for being yourself? You could be doing things for others - above and beyond what is expected of you - and still be apologizing to them for not meeting their inflated demands, that seem to keep growing. There seems to be no way you can please others and yourself, and you are always torn between both.
If all of this is true for you, and you're constantly apologizing for certain things, you could be suffering from low-esteem. Here are 6 things you should never have to apologize for.
Everyone has the right to be unavailable to others every now and then, without having to feel guilty. It might be against your nature to say no to people's requests or it's probably against the grain of your nature to do something that could stop short from pleasing people. However, this behavior could be harming you since you're overextending yourself and are being there for others more than for yourself. It is okay to refuse requests by others without feeling guilty. It is important to focus on your own wellbeing first.
As a woman, you might often feel it's necessary to apologize for your feelings. Perhaps, your feelings make you feel guilty. However, as human beings feelings are a natural part of your life. Don't judge yourself too harshly and label yourself as moody or sensitive. Your feelings exist for a reason. They tell you if a situation did not match up to your expectations and values. In a relationship, for instance, if you're often the one compromising, you could be angry or upset because your needs are not being met. You might use tears to express yourself and that is okay. Just embrace those emotions as a part of you. Show yourself the kindness you show others and stop apologizing for having emotions.
A relationship is a partnership and it is okay to have expectations off your partner. Everyone needs affection, trust, compassion, and respect from their partner. No matter how long you have been together, it is important that both of you give each other time and energy. Wanting to have some quality time together, where it's just the two of you is a normal way to keep the fire alive in the relationship. So, you are only doing your rightful part of being a good wife or girlfriend instead of going along with the indifference he shows. That will only tear you apart. You are on the right side for wanting to keep the relationship alive and shouldn't feel or say sorry for it.
Sometimes, your work-life and home-life become too much to handle and you just need some time alone to recharge. Every human deserves time and space to themselves, or they are bound to burn out completely. But perhaps you apologize for that to your partner. Before exhaustion hits you, take a step back and spend time getting to know yourself better. We all need a time out to stop ourselves from getting frayed, and to reevaluate our life path, and that is entirely okay. Seeking time to get to know yourself better is not something one should have to say sorry for.
Is it important for you that others like you? Do you often find yourself agreeing with everything others say? Anytime, you express that you have a different opinion, do you find yourself saying sorry to others for not agreeing? If it is more important to you that you appease others over speaking your mind, you could have low self-esteem. You shouldn't have to be apologetic for being yourself and speaking what you honestly think. Everyone has the right to freely express themselves.
Are you constantly second-guessing your hobbies and choices in food, music, or clothes? Do you wait for others to order before making up your mind? Have you molded yourself to other people's needs and changed interests and choices based on who you were with? Do you relate to Julia Roberts in Runaway Bride, in which she chooses the eggs based on what her partner likes? You might be allowing others to walk all over you because of your low self-esteem. You are stopping yourself from growing as an individual. You are living by other people's choices and not your own. As an individual, it is expected that you have likes and dislikes and it is okay to express them and not be sorry for it.