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Your Partner Might Not Be "the One" If You Can't Talk to Him About These 7 Things

Your Partner Might Not Be "the One" If You Can't Talk to Him About These 7 Things

Communication is key in every relationship. Being able to talk about important stuff with your partner will let you know whether this relationship is worth it or not and whether you are investing your emotions in the right guy.

Being in a relationship isn't easy. At first, it might be all fun and games. You could talk to them about anything and everything. But at some point later on, you start to wonder where it's going and whether those conversations you had were ever anything deeper than surface-level topics. Now that you've been with them for a while, you realize that there are certain things you need to clarify. After all, communication is key to a healthy relationship.

Sometimes you might find it easy to talk to them but there may be times when talking to them might need you to have a well-laid out script beforehand. If you face the latter more often, then you might need to re-evaluate where you stand with them. And these seven conversations you have with your partner will let you know whether they're really "the one."

1. About your future together

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In a long-term relationship, you'd think that discussing the future together would pop up in some conversation or the other. But if you bring up the topic and your partner brushes it off or considers it to be a joke, then you might want to think again about being with this person for the rest of your life.

2. Money matters

Though money may be a touchy topic for some people, partners should be able to openly discuss it. It could be a little unnerving to have to talk about spending and saving styles, but for the two of you, it is an essential conversation. After all, you need to be able to trust each other enough. But if you find your partner balking at the topic or being closed-off about it, then it could cause some serious issues later on in the future.

3. Your emotional well-being

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Having a partner means that you have someone you can talk about your feelings with. That means talking about the good, bad, ugly, and scary emotions. But if you find yourself stressing out a lot over the fact that you're unable to talk to them because you are afraid of being judged, your partner might not be the right one for you.

4. Your sexual needs

Physical intimacy, especially sex, is an important factor in every relationship. It's the one place you can openly express your desires and wishes, whether verbally or non-verbally. Yet, if you find yourself being neglected and see that he doesn't care much for your needs, it can put a dampener in your relationship. This lack of communication can harm your connection with him. You should be able to state your needs and wants without worrying if they'll be offended or hurt by it.

5. Your insecurities and dreams

Your insecurities don't make you weak but it's normal for you to want to hide them anyway. You'd expect your partner to be supportive of you and if you find that they put you down more often than they build you up, it could be a warning sign. The same applies to how they treat the dreams you constantly work so hard for. Being able to talk to them about it without being judged or dismissed is important.

6. Whether you want to have children or not

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As you grow older and are more established in your career, it's natural for you to want to start a family. But finding that your partner isn't open to having the "kid" talk might be a sign you should watch out for. In fact, not talking about it has torn more couples apart because one wanted kids while their partner didn't. A child is a commitment that both of you need to be fully invested in. If they're not interested at all, then maybe it's time to find someone who shares the same dream as you.

7. Your relationship

"We need to talk." It's a line that can have most partners panicking. But it shouldn't be like that. You should be able to talk about your relationship, your pains, your common dreams, and everything else in between with them. Knowing what is changing in your relationship and how the needs of both of you have changed is something that needs a proper discussion.

If you can talk about all of this with your partner freely, then you can be sure that they're in it with you for the long haul. If not, you deserve better with someone who is willing to take that leap with you.

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