It takes effort to make a relationship work, celebrity or not. But Beyonce's story is one you might find yourself relating to.
From breaking into her true potential at the age of nine to becoming one of the world's most famous singers and entertainers, Beyonce, known as the "Queen" by fans, has carved a place into the music industry's Hall of Fame. But she isn't defined just by her performances and fame — it's the way she wants to live life.
"My main accomplishment is achieving peace and happiness. Sometimes you think it's success, and you think that it's being a big star. But I want respect, and I want friendship and love and laughter, and I want to grow," she said, according to Notable Biographies.
She has done exactly that by not just building herself up but by working hard to keep her marriage and family a happy one. And she knows just how hard and long it took to make it that way, especially with her partner, musician, Jay Z.
They first met when Beyoncé was around 18 years old and Jay-Z would have just turned 30. Their meeting happened when Beyonce's father and manager Matthew Knowles arranged for her to appear on 2000's I Got That by Amil, who was on Jay's Roc-A-Fella Records, reported ET! Online.
At first, the singer admitted that "He's [Jay Z] nice," to J. Randy Taraborrelli's in her 2015 biography Becoming Beyoncé, "but I don't know...I'm not feelin' him." However, it was her mother Tina Knowles who encouraged her to at least give him a chance — one date and see what happens. And 11 years later, they're a strong, happily married couple, even if she wasn't the most intent on getting married then.
"There was no rush—no one expected me to run off and get married," the 37-year-old singer recalled to Seventeen in 2008. "I really don't believe that you will love the same thing when you're 20 as you do at 30. So that was my rule: Before the age of 25, I would never get married. I feel like you have to get to know yourself, know what you want, spend some time by yourself, and be proud of who you are before you can share that with someone else."
And she found someone to share it with - Jay Z. But it wasn't a cakewalk.
There were multiple rumors of Jay Z cheating on Beyonce, with artists such as Rita Ora and Casey Cohen. So much so that Beyonce's songs like Resentment, Ring the Alarm and her album titled Lemonade sparked debate about whether the theme of infidelity was with reference to Jay Z, according to Cheat Sheet. "They had been having problems for years," a source close to the couple told E! News. "There was a constant commitment issue between them and in the end they were barely speaking. Beyoncé didn't fully trust Jay and it was hard for her to get past that."
However, through it all, Beyonce didn't give up on him. She wanted to make the family work and was a "beautiful and understanding wife," said Jay Z when he opened up about his affairs to David Letterman. He said that she was the woman "who is willing to stand by his side and recognize that he isn’t just his mistakes."
"We did the hard work of going to therapy, and really we love each other so, we really put in the work, and for years. This music that I'm making now is a result of things that happened already and, like you, I like to believe that we're in a better place today but still working and communicating and growing. I'm proud of the father and the husband that I am today because of all the work that was done," he said in conclusion.
Together, the couple have three children together, something that truly built them up as a family — one they didn't want to let go of.
"I've heard from many people [in her circle] that her and Jay Z want to have more children. They're very happy right now, and they [have been putting] in the work to have a long and successful relationship," J. Randy Taraborrelli told Heat magazine. "They're not going to throw away that kind of investment. The 16 years [at the time of publication] they've put into that relationship, they are not going to throw that away overnight."
As for what Beyonce has to say about bringing and keeping her family together while being able to retain her success:
“I come from a lineage of broken male-female relationships, abuse of power, and mistrust,” she said, according to Variety. “Only when I saw that clearly was I able to resolve those conflicts in my own relationship. Connecting to the past and knowing our history makes us both bruised and beautiful.
“I have experienced betrayals and heartbreaks in many forms,” she continues. “I have had disappointments in business partnerships as well as personal ones, and they all left me feeling neglected, lost, and vulnerable. Through it all I have learned to laugh and cry and grow. I look at the woman I was in my 20s and I see a young lady growing into confidence but intent on pleasing everyone around her. I now feel so much more beautiful, so much sexier, so much more interesting. And so much more powerful.”