Married for 35 Years, Katharine Ross & Sam Elliott Reveal How They Cope with Disagreements

Married for 35 Years, Katharine Ross & Sam Elliott Reveal How They Cope with Disagreements

The couple met in 1978 when they worked in film horror film "The Legacy" together, but Katharine was still married at the time. It wasn't until1984 that they could finally get married and there's been no looking back since.

A longterm committed relationship is a journey full of challenges, even for normal folks. When you add the burden of failed relationships in the past and the glamour that Hollywood brings, it can be a recipe for disaster for many, but not this couple. Together for 35 years, Sam Elliott and Katharine Ross have been through a lot, mostly good things. At one point, they were named the sexiest couple of Hollywood by a magazine. His baritone, impressive mustache, handsome looks, and more attracted the actress, who is five years senior to him.

Despite the positive attention, the pressure of keeping up appearances in Hollywood is not unknown to them. However, they know how to make their relationship work.


They have been married since 1984 and have a daughter together. It wasn't smooth sailing right from the start though. The first time Sam - who recently had a powerful role in Bradley Cooper-starrer A Star is Born - saw Katharine - whose breakout role was in The Graduate with Dustin Hoffman - was while they worked in Butch Cassidy and the Sundance Kid. While she was the lead, he was only a "glorified extra".


"I didn't dare try to talk to her then. She was the leading lady. I was a shadow on the wall, a glorified extra in a bar scene. It wasn't until we made The Legacy [in 1978] that we actually interacted. We have a common sensibility, but we also work at being together," said Sam to AARP magazine. When they met, Katharine's marriage to her fourth husband was on the brink of ending while Sam had never been married.


When Katharine was asked if Sam's baritone voice, rugged good looks, or mustache, drew her to him, she told The Mercury News, "Probably all that and more. We were working together and one thing led to another. And here we are."


It wasn't until her divorce in 1979 that they got together. They officiated their deep commitment to each other in 1984 and their daughter, Cleo Rose, a musician now, was born later the same year.


When they were on their honeymoon, he almost skipped on a great part as Cher's boyfriend in the 1985 film Mask. He told his agent that he wouldn't return from Hawaii early enough for the reel rest but Ross promptly called back to say she would make sure they return, according to Country Living. Now here's a couple that supports each other's work. Their love runs deep. They're both creative and life partners.


"We all obviously have a limited amount of time on this earth and we should strive to make the most of it — personally, professionally, spiritually and whatever else. … We tend to take too much for granted," Ross told Mercury News.

Asked about how they cope with disagreements, he said, "You work past the s--t; you don't walk away from it. That's how relationships last."


Sam's voice has been iconic and his ticket to fame. You would also remember it from "Smokey the Bear” campaign and The Big Lebowski. He has also been in films like The Legacy, Tombstone. Recently, the couple also worked on a film called The Hero together. Otherwise, Katharine has taken a backseat from the entertainment industry and spends more time in their second home in Oregon’s Willamette Valley.


“We talk about getting out of La La Land and moving up there permanently,” she says. “But that talk has been going on for a long time.”


When Sam was asked how does it feel to work together, he told the LA Times, "I think we just like making movies and having that creative experience together is the best. It's just fun. It's a whole different kind of energy to go home with someone you're working with rather than go home to somebody who isn't working. It's a totally positive experience."






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